“Way back” in 1997 a little book
hit the popular reading market titled, “DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL
STUFF.” Another way of saying it might be, "DON'T MAKE MOUNTAINS OUT OF MOLEHILLS."
I bought and read the book when it was first published, and it has kept nudging me from my bookshelf every time I glanced in that direction. I have been reminded just by reading the title on its spine since the subject is one of my problems. Recently I relented and took it off the shelf to thumb through it again.
Time has moved on and each of us is changed over time. Whenever we pick up a book we have read before, its message applies to us in a new way because we now have different issues.
I bought and read the book when it was first published, and it has kept nudging me from my bookshelf every time I glanced in that direction. I have been reminded just by reading the title on its spine since the subject is one of my problems. Recently I relented and took it off the shelf to thumb through it again.
Time has moved on and each of us is changed over time. Whenever we pick up a book we have read before, its message applies to us in a new way because we now have different issues.
However, I had to disagree with part of
its title “...and it's all small stuff.” No, it's not ALL small
stuff. There's BIG stuff out there in all of our lives, in mine, in
my family's relationships, in the issues my circle of friends are
going through, and certainly out there in the crises our nation and
the world are grappling with. Those I should be serious about.
The point is, we should be perceptive
and discerning and not make mountains out of mole hills, as
they say. Not ALL things are mole hills for us to brush aside. Things
or events or words of great importance, or national and international
disasters or tragedies or catastrophes require serious thought, and
fervent prayer and trust in the Lord—yes, and maybe “sweat”
too. But not the passing trivia of daily life and happenings that
seem to morph before our eyes into something monstrous and menacing.
I shouldn't waste time and energy and
anxiety and worry about things which are temporal, of this earth, of
this flesh, of the strictly now kind of situations. I
shouldn't argue about the inconsequential or insist I am right about
unimportant matters. Truly, “What difference does it make
who wins a debate over lilliputian issues?” By next week or next
month or next year, will I care about the worries about which I lost
sleep last night? So other people are imperfect—so am I. If we
don't agree on some matter—so what? Life isn't fair—who said it
is? Not every urgency is an emergency—I should get a perspective.
So what if there is a glitch in my well-laid plans. Is it worth
losing my peace over? Couldn't I give everyone the benefit of the
doubt rather than fret uselessly about something that isn't the way I
like it?
We are told to choose our battles
wisely. That's only half true. Perhaps I shouldn't battle at all if
I've concluded that something is really small stuff. There will be
times when I'll want or need to argue, confront, or even fight for
something I believe in. So many things in life are really not a big
deal. Why should I be frustrated and unhappy by fussing with the
inconsequential?
A part of not sweating the small stuff,
is my tendency to be melodramatic. I blow things out of proportion. I
can get too worked up about something that should be minor and petty. I know I
should lighten up. Moreover, why do I too often feel compelled to
deal with other people's issues? I need to butt out of things that
are not my business. I trespass into places where I have no control
and in which I can't be of any help. My efforts prove fruitless and
almost always unappreciated or resented.
So it boils down to discernment as to
what is really important not only in my limited finite sight but from God's eternal
perspective. Where is my focus? I must know what are genuine priorities. My
earth-time is not endless. I have a choice to make that affects eternity. I know I shouldn't invest/waste
my efforts in the niggling quibble about the small stuff.
Scripture lays out
plainly what are the important things I should seek for—the Kingdom of God
and His righteousness. And also what things I should lay aside or
avoid. The “small stuff” is in the latter category. If it's my
words I should be careful about, I will pray, “Set a watch, O Lord,
o'er my lips.” If my thoughts or actions draw me to sweat the small
stuff, I should pray for perceptiveness to understand what is really
important and then be about my Father's business.
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